Rules of dating multiple men
If a woman is not in a mutually committed relationship, she should be able to date as many men as she chooses. I had a roundtable discussion with a few of my friends (both men and women) about this and was quite surprised by some of the answers that I received.If a woman is dating more than one man at a time, she is not giving enough time or effort to finding out if she is truly compatible with any of them.Women not only spent less time looking at a man’s face (when compared with men looking at women); they also moved more quickly onto his other body parts. “So take in her breasts or legs, but don’t dwell on them.” And make the most of your assets, too.“Wear well-fitting shirts, and don’t be shy about using your jeans to show off whatever nature gave you.” OLD: Online dating.
So many of my clients ask me whether dating more than one man at a time is a wise idea.
He said that he had had 2 dates with someone and they both went very well and that he wasn’t one for dating multiple people. Well, if you know you’re someone that isn’t comfortable dating more than one person at a time, cancel the date. The window is closing with the other person and you know within a few days or weeks you’ll probably be committed in some fashion and want to get in one last go before you swear off other people. If you do, then lie to that person when and if they contact you again and say you’re taking your profile down because something with work has you too busy to date. Don’t offer progress reports - Nobody needs to hear about the other dates you’ve had or are going to have.
But given the transitory nature of online dating, it’s unwise to cut off your options after 2 or 3 dates.
Kinda had other things occupying my time and head space. Don’t try to slide one in under the wire (or at least be smart about it) – So you’ve had a few good dates and things look promising. Brazenly notifying the other people you’re dating of your blossoming relationship doesn’t have the desired affect you think it does. Not only will you feel silly and be embarrassed if it ends, but you possibly might scare away the person you’re dating. When you do cut things off with the other people, don’t tell them you’ve met someone else - Nobody likes to feel like they didn’t measure up.
So I asked him to explain the message, just to be sure I was interpreting things correctly. But you have another date with someone you’ve already scheduled. Don’t get too confident – Two or three dates is NOTHING. It makes it look like getting to a second, third, fourth date is rare for you. Just say that you didn’t think there was enough compatibility for things to go further.7.